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03 April 2009 @ 06:19 pm
Thoughts from an SPN fan  
I'm reluctant to talk about Supernatural in my LJ. I've been mulling over why it's such an issue with me and after weeks of reflection I realized I still have no clue why.

I love the show. It's no secret that I really love this show. I still stand by my assessment that even on its worst days, SPN is one of the most well-written, acted, and produced shows on TV right now. Sometimes it's even hard for me to watch other stuff on TV because I know it just won't compare to what I get out of SPN. If I am such an ardent supporter, why can't I talk about it?

I think there are a lot of factors, but I fail at being able to express them into words properly. The whole Sam vs. Dean thing in the fandom is certainly a big chunk of it. I am very sensitive to it, so much so that it's ridiculous at times. But it's funny I should be so sensitive since I am barely involved IN the fandom. I made that a conscious effort. My over involvement in SG-1 hurt some of my enjoyment of that show so I didn't want to do it again. I stay awake from the wank and the character wars and the bashing. I rarely read reactions to the show and I avoid forums, boards, and I'm even overly cautious about chatting with people. I try to make my experience, as limited as it is, a stress free experience. I have enough of that in my life.

So, I just want to write fic that hopefully some people will like, but if not it's still there just for me. I want to make art and play with media. I just want to have fun.

Yet, I barely say boo. I'm tired of whatever I say having to be qualified by something else. I'm tired of having to defend characters or be misunderstood. I'm tired of any minor criticisms or fears I have being such an issue. Once, I might have been afraid of voicing my opinion, but I'm not afraid of my opinions anymore. I'm just tired of defending them.

Also, I do care about others and I don't want to hurt other people's feelings. So if I don't like a character, I hold back so that I won't hurt someone who does. I don't appreciate it when people come up to me and slam my fave character to my face. I don't like it when someone gets all passive aggressive about what I like and turns it on me. Therefore, I don't want to accidentally do it to someone else.

Everyone is always so on edge. I wish we all could relax a bit.

I'm a Deangirl and I'm not ashamed of it. However, I really like Sam. I like Sam enough that I get annoyed when I see him put down. Dean is always going to trump Sam for me. Always. That is just the way it is. But that doesn't mean I don't like Sam episodes or I'm not interested in Sam's arc. It just means I am more interested in Dean's.

But something else is even more important than THAT. For me, the core of this show is the relationship between the brothers. That is priority for me. I get twitchy when I see people putting down either brother, though I am obviously more sensitive when it happens with Dean. In fact, I encounter so much Dean hate that I just throw up my hands and quit. (And yes, I know it exists for Sam, too. But I am more sensitive to the Dean stuff.)

I don't want to withdraw to the point of disappearing.

I want to talk to other fans. I want to have discussions and speculate. I want get excited with like minds. I want to squee with other people. I want to have fun and I want people to have fun with me.

I just can't seem to do it. :(
Current Mood: pessimisticpessimistic
Nervous, Messed-Up Marionettesuperbadgirl on April 3rd, 2009 11:00 pm (UTC)
Honestly? You can't please everyone, and trying to do so will only end up sucking too much from you. I never expect everyone to agree with much of what I say, but I won't stop saying it because I might displease someone.

But that's just me. If you don't want to talk SPN, then simply don't. There is no need to explain why.
Working for the Mandroid: Driftmoonshayde on April 3rd, 2009 11:31 pm (UTC)
I was just being reflective.

I know that if I don't want to talk about then I don't have to. I just like to explore thoughts as to why sometimes.
Nervous, Messed-Up Marionettesuperbadgirl on April 3rd, 2009 11:54 pm (UTC)
Oh, I know. I think my brain just doesn't work that way - if I loved something about an episode or an arc or whatever, it takes a lot for me to be impacted by someone else's view. I certainly won't enjoy something less because someone else didn't like what I liked at all. Different strokes for different folks, I guess.

Hmm, maybe the closest I can get is the Sam v. Dean thing, which I find frustrating and a bit confusing. But unless I go looking for it, I can avoid most of the yuck and yap without reservation on my own LJ.
Working for the Mandroid: Huntmoonshayde on April 4th, 2009 12:53 pm (UTC)
I'm easily sensitive to other people's views so I am the opposite from you in that regard.

But I always ask why for everything and being an introspective type, I just can't help it sometimes LOL Though, luckily, I am also a private person so most of it never ever makes it to my LJ anyway.